Regardless of how hard you try to forget your ex, they are texting, calling, or doing everything they can to remind you they still exist. It may be a sign that God is testing you to find out if you are still stupid. And it may make you ask yourself, “Should I let my ex-partner back in my life?” But, should you give them a second chance when they try to weasel their way back into your life?
Here Are 4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Letting Your Ex Back in Your Life:
– “Why did we break up?”
Sometimes your memory can play tricks on you, tempting you to remember the best of times and not the worst. Just remembering the sweet occasions (during which your ex-partner was nice, thoughtful, charming, or loving,) and forgetting the persistent and painful impasses, might make you long for the chance to re-connect.
But, you should ask yourself why you broke up in the first place. If you broke up due to one very intense fight, perhaps you were both too caught up in the moment. Or perhaps they were unfaithful.
Whatever it was, you should revisit the reason why the two of you broke up. Before giving them a second chance, be honest with yourself and never forget why you broke up in the first place.
– “Have my ex changed?”
People can be great talkers. However, saying something and doing it are two different things. Remember that actions speak louder than words. So if you are hearing a lot of talk from them about how much they have changed, look for the proof.
Pay close attention to what they are doing in order to find out how trustworthy they have become. If what they are doing is not lining up with what they are saying, chances are they have NOT changed. If it is the case, you should not give them a second chance. If the two of you broke up due to their inability to manage their stress, have they learned to handle it better?
– “Why do they want to get back together?”
Have their friends shunned them for the way they treated you? Are they having a hard time at work? Were they rejected by the 22-year-old dancer they dumped you for?
You should take a step back and find out why they want to get back together. They may shiver on your doorstep every single day looking for a second chance because they still love you and truly want you back.
– “Is there anything I truly miss about them?”
Can you remember something that you genuinely miss about your ex or are you just lonely or miss the intimacy? It may be easy to say you miss them as they were great in bed or had a good sense of humor, but when you truly think about it, you may come up with many more reasons why you do not miss them at all.
You should not let them in just because you are lonely or you miss the intimacy. You should not give them a second chance just because you have had a history with them or you are lonely and you feel desperate for love and connection. Be honest with yourself and think if or why they deserve a second chance.